A Queen Set Apart

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Are you a Queen set apart? What I mean by that is, are you “different”? Do you go against the grain or feel like the “black sheep” regarding the vision and plan for your life? If you answered yes, then this post is especially for you.

The Definition Of a Pioneer (and no, I’m not trying to give you a vocabulary lesson.)

According to Google‘s Dictionary, a Pioneer is defined as:

  1. a person who is among the first to explore or settle a new country or area.
  2. develop or be the first to use or apply (a new method, area of knowledge, or activity).

And when I looked up the etymology of it at www.etmyonline.com, it showed me this: “…1520s, “foot soldier who prepares the way for the army,” from Middle French pionnier“foot-soldier, pioneer,” from Old French paonier “foot-soldier” (11c.), from peon (see pawn (n.2)). Figurative sense of “person who goes first or does something first” is from c. 1600. “

So, what does being a pioneer have to do with being a Queen set apart? Well, if you are anything like me, have decided to follow the relentless nagging of your inner truth and have begun the process of pursuing your passions and purpose, then you, my dear Queen-sister, are a pioneer in your own right.

Initially It All Feels Like a Royal Pain

Let’s look at those definitions again and really breakdown how it applies to the you as a pioneer. First and foremost, you are in new territory, an unfamiliar station of life and have no choice but to learn as you go and grow. Secondly, while you may not be the first in your industry, field or area of specialty, there is a good chance that you are the first person in your family, circle of friends or community to have chosen to live and lead your life “this certain way”.

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The upside to all of this is that you are finally being true to yourself and may find yourself  feeling more fulfilled in your endeavors. The downside is that those closest to you and whose support and advice you seek the most do not understand the hungering of your heart and will, with all good intentions, attempt to discourage you. They may seem dismissive or simply “tolerating’ your change in focus and behavior. When you are feeling frustrated, unmotivated or need someone to act as your idea spring board and accountability partner, it may not be realistic of you to expect that they will allow you to rely on them the way you have in the past. At the realization of this, you must be willing to expand your circle. This is ultimately the only way in which you will continue moving forward and thriving.

The Path of Least Resistance

I know it hurts or may even make you angry, but rather than argue or try to convince dear ones why and how they should support you, it is far easier and much more beneficial to you on an energetic level to stop fighting the natural course of things. The time will come when you must get up, get out and go meet some new people. Now, I am no way suggesting you abandon or turn your back on those you care about, but it is imperative to your personal and professional growth that you accept that fact they may not be capable of providing you with what you need along this journey.

Queen Mission

Being Set Apart Does Not Equate to Isolation

The really good news is now there are so many ways to connect with people locally and around the world that there really is no good reason not to. The website www.meetup.com is one of my personal favorites because for a nominal monthly fee you can set-up your own “meet-up” group based on your interests, goals or industry as well as search already established groups and events.

Queen Armour Bearers

The  Queen Armour Bearers (Q.A.B.) group is my small but developing contribution to the cause. In the past we have gathered just for the sake of supporting and educating one another as well as more focused activities like creating vision boards and hosting to promote a fellow Queen’s business. Keep an eye on the Upcoming Events widget in the left sidebar and use the Eventbrite button to register for upcoming QAB events.  Additionally, if you would like to be added to the Queen Biz Directory, please send your head shot or other professional photo with a short bio to, QueensUnitedinExcellence@gmail.com